Healing From Past Relationship Trauma-from Karma Gaia

 

In the life of someone who is healing from a toxic relationship, trauma can cause havoc. A traumatized person tends to experience intense emotions. They tend to withdraw from society. Even those who they have trusted in the past may prove difficult to trust for many traumatized individuals.

When Does Relationship Trauma Occur?

Relationship trauma is not solely caused by physical assault. Additionally, emotional and psychological abuse may be the cause, and this may include:

One partner purposely humiliating the other One partner making degrading comments about the other in private or public The abuser constantly criticizing the other person One partner making the other partner feel guilty for things that aren’t their fault One partner trying to control the other’s life by telling them what they can and can’t do.

Symptoms of Relationship Trauma

A common trait of relationship trauma is low self-esteem. A traumatized person may apologize excessively, have unwanted or obsessive thoughts, and may have trouble concentrating and focusing.

Here are a few typical indicators of relationship trauma.

Unwanted and recurring flashbacks to horrific events Feelings of shame or guilt Sleep disturbances and nightmares Trust issues Feelings of suspicion. They often carry the burden of the past and are hypervigilant when interacting with people

Tips to Let Go of the Past

These are a few strategies for releasing the bonds of trauma.

Make a commitment to let go: Acknowledging that the past cannot control the course of your life and resolving to let go of the past is the first step towards letting go. Feel the emotions: Memories of past events might arouse strong feelings and thoughts. Feel these feelings instead of suppressing them so you can figure out what went wrong. You can talk to your therapist or a friend about your feelings. Get help: It seems reasonable to pursue individual counseling if you are unable to break free from a negative mental pattern on your own. Giving traumatized individuals the tools they need to deal with overwhelming thoughts and emotions is the primary goal of counseling. Engage in mindfulness: Learn to focus on what’s happening in the present. Strive to be happy in the little things in life, schedule time for the important things, get outside more to spend time in the great outdoors, and incorporate meditation into your daily routine. Think before reacting: Before reacting to a situation, take a moment and think of the consequences of your action. You will eventually get the hang of this, but it will require some practice.