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Sunday, March 2, 2025

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Fixed vs. Growth Mindset: How Your Mindset Shapes Your Midlife Journey

Is your mindset helping or holding you back? Learn how shifting from a fixed to a growth mindset can open new doors to confidence, wellness, and purpose—no matter how old or set in your ways you are.

The Power of Mindset

We’ve all experienced moments where we remind ourselves to believe that change is possible. Whether it’s in our health, relationships, or career, we instinctively know that mindset plays a powerful role in shaping our experiences.

Yet, “mindset” has become one of those overused words in the self-help world—often tossed around as a quick fix. But in reality, it’s much deeper. Our mindset influences not only how we see ourselves but also how we navigate challenges, setbacks, and growth opportunities.

You’ve probably met people who seem to move through life with unwavering confidence. They believe in themselves, and that belief alone propels them forward. Sometimes, even without exceptional skills, they achieve success simply because they trust that they can.

This is why mindset matters. It isn’t just a cliché—it’s a fundamental part of how we experience midlife and beyond.

Fixed vs. Growth Mindset: Two Different Approaches

Research highlights two distinct mindsets that influence how we engage with life: the fixed mindset and the growth mindset. Let’s explore what each one looks like and how they might be showing up in your life.

The Fixed Mindset: Stuck in Limitation

A fixed mindset operates from a place of limitation. It’s the belief that our abilities, intelligence, and talents are set in stone—unchangeable, no matter what we do.

For example, if you’ve ever said, “I’m just not good at technology” or “I’ll never be flexible enough for yoga” and never tried to improve because of that belief, you’re experiencing a fixed mindset.

This mindset keeps us in our comfort zone, focusing only on what we already know we’re good at. It makes us resistant to trying new things, especially when failure is a possibility. And let’s be honest—midlife can already feel like a vulnerable time, making it tempting to stick with what feels safe.

If you recognize this pattern in yourself, pause and ask: Where did this belief come from? Was it something I was told growing up? Have I internalized limitations that aren’t actually true?

The good news? Your mindset isn’t permanent. You can shift it.

The Growth Mindset: Embracing Possibility

A growth mindset thrives on learning, curiosity, and resilience. It embraces mistakes—not as failures, but as feedback.

When you have a growth mindset, you understand that your abilities are not fixed; they can evolve with effort and persistence. You see challenges as opportunities to grow rather than threats to avoid.

Instead of saying, “I’m bad at this,” a growth mindset says, “I’m still learning this.”

Midlife is an ideal time to embrace this way of thinking. Maybe you’ve always wanted to try strength training, start a meditation practice, or change careers—but fear of “not being good enough” has held you back. The truth is, growth happens in the small, consistent steps we take outside our comfort zones.

Fixed vs. Growth Mindset: How Your Mindset Shapes Your Midlife Journey

Is your mindset helping or holding you back? Learn how shifting from a fixed to a growth mindset can open new doors to confidence, wellness, and purpose—no matter how old or set in your ways you are.

The Power of Mindset

We’ve all experienced moments where we remind ourselves to believe that change is possible. Whether it’s in our health, relationships, or career, we instinctively know that mindset plays a powerful role in shaping our experiences.

Yet, “mindset” has become one of those overused words in the self-help world—often tossed around as a quick fix. But in reality, it’s much deeper. Our mindset influences not only how we see ourselves but also how we navigate challenges, setbacks, and growth opportunities.

You’ve probably met people who seem to move through life with unwavering confidence. They believe in themselves, and that belief alone propels them forward. Sometimes, even without exceptional skills, they achieve success simply because they trust that they can.

This is why mindset matters. It isn’t just a cliché—it’s a fundamental part of how we experience midlife and beyond.

Fixed vs. Growth Mindset: Two Different Approaches

Research highlights two distinct mindsets that influence how we engage with life: the fixed mindset and the growth mindset. Let’s explore what each one looks like and how they might be showing up in your life.

The Fixed Mindset: Stuck in Limitation

A fixed mindset operates from a place of limitation. It’s the belief that our abilities, intelligence, and talents are set in stone—unchangeable, no matter what we do.

For example, if you’ve ever said, “I’m just not good at technology” or “I’ll never be flexible enough for yoga” and never tried to improve because of that belief, you’re experiencing a fixed mindset.

This mindset keeps us in our comfort zone, focusing only on what we already know we’re good at. It makes us resistant to trying new things, especially when failure is a possibility. And let’s be honest—midlife can already feel like a vulnerable time, making it tempting to stick with what feels safe.

If you recognize this pattern in yourself, pause and ask: Where did this belief come from? Was it something I was told growing up? Have I internalized limitations that aren’t actually true?

The good news? Your mindset isn’t permanent. You can shift it.

The Growth Mindset: Embracing Possibility

A growth mindset thrives on learning, curiosity, and resilience. It embraces mistakes—not as failures, but as feedback.

When you have a growth mindset, you understand that your abilities are not fixed; they can evolve with effort and persistence. You see challenges as opportunities to grow rather than threats to avoid.

Instead of saying, “I’m bad at this,” a growth mindset says, “I’m still learning this.”

Midlife is an ideal time to embrace this way of thinking. Maybe you’ve always wanted to try strength training, start a meditation practice, or change careers—but fear of “not being good enough” has held you back. The truth is, growth happens in the small, consistent steps we take outside our comfort zones.

Finding the Balance

It’s important to remember that having a fixed mindset in some areas isn’t necessarily a bad thing. There’s nothing wrong with focusing on what you already excel at. The key is to avoid letting limiting beliefs hold you back from trying new things.

At this stage of life, you get to decide how you show up. You can embrace new challenges without fear of failure defining you. You can reframe setbacks as part of the learning process. You can choose a mindset that supports the life you want to create.

Your Mindset, Your Choice

So, where do you see yourself? Do you tend to stay in the comfort of a fixed mindset, or are you leaning into growth?

A great way to explore this is by seeking feedback. Ask yourself:

  • What stories am I telling myself about what I can and can’t do?
  • Where am I limiting myself unnecessarily?
  • How can I reframe failure as part of my growth process?

The most important takeaway? Mindset is a choice. And at midlife, you have the wisdom and experience to make powerful choices that align with your well-being, growth, and fulfillment.

So go ahead—choose growth. Your future self will thank you.

Yung Puebo

 



The Butterfly Technique For Nervous System Regulation

 




Click below to learn about this technique:








Inner Child

 


The Physical Language of Distress: How Unpleasant Emotions Speak Through Your Body-Karma Gaia

 


We often think of emotions as abstract mental states, but they have profound physical manifestations. When we experience difficult feelings like anger, fear, or sadness, our bodies respond with their own distinct vocabulary of sensations.

Anxiety: The Body on High Alert

Anxiety doesn't just live in worried thoughts—it courses through your entire system. Your heart races, pumping blood to your limbs in preparation for fight or flight. Your breathing becomes shallow and rapid, sometimes leading to the sensation of suffocation. Your muscles tense, particularly around the neck, shoulders, and jaw, creating a suit of armor that leaves you exhausted. In the gut, anxiety manifests as butterflies, nausea, or digestive distress—a reminder of the intimate connection between our enteric nervous system and emotional state.

Grief: The Weighted Body

Grief weighs us down quite literally. Those experiencing profound loss often describe a heaviness in the chest, as though a stone sits atop their sternum. Limbs feel leaden, making even simple movements require extraordinary effort. Fatigue becomes a constant companion, not just from disturbed sleep but from the energy demands of processing loss. The throat tightens, creating the sensation of being choked by unshed tears.

Shame: The Shrinking Body

Shame creates a distinct physical signature—a desire to become smaller and less visible. The shoulders curl inward, the gaze drops to the floor, and blood rushes to the face in a telling blush. The stomach knots while the chest hollows. There's a peculiar sensation of the skin becoming hypersensitive, as though everyone can see through to our perceived failings.

The Wisdom in Discomfort

These physical manifestations aren't merely inconvenient side effects—they contain valuable information. Our bodies often recognize emotional truths before our conscious minds catch up. That tightness in your throat might flag an important boundary being crossed. The heaviness in your chest signals that something meaningful has been lost and needs to be honored.

By developing a more nuanced awareness of how emotions manifest physically, we gain another dimension of emotional intelligence. Sensations become signposts, guiding us toward what needs attention, processing, or expression. The body's language of distress, when properly interpreted, becomes not just a source of discomfort but a pathway to deeper understanding and eventual release.

CHIME-CMHA

 



Beyond Coping: Building a Life That Supports Presence and Connection-Karma Gaia

 


In the journey of managing dissociation, we often focus on immediate coping strategies—the grounding techniques and crisis interventions that help us return to the present moment when we've drifted away. While these tools are essential, they represent only one piece of a larger puzzle. What if we could create lives where dissociation happens less frequently in the first place? Where our daily existence naturally fosters presence rather than escape?

The Environment as Medicine

Our physical surroundings speak to our nervous systems in ways we rarely consciously register. Spaces that feel safe, organized, and sensory-rich can anchor us to the present moment, while chaotic, overstimulating, or triggering environments can push us toward disconnection.

Consider creating a home environment that serves as a sanctuary for your nervous system. This might mean:

  • Designating technology-free zones where you can fully engage with your immediate experience

  • Incorporating meaningful sensory elements—the texture of a favorite blanket, the scent of essential oils, or plants that require your attention and care

  • Reducing visual clutter, which can overwhelm an already taxed nervous system

  • Creating physical reminders of safety and connection, such as photos of loved ones or objects that hold positive memories

Rhythms Over Routines

While establishing routines is frequently recommended for those who dissociate, rigid schedules can sometimes become another form of disconnection—a checklist we move through without presence. Instead, consider cultivating rhythms: flexible patterns that honor your body's needs while providing necessary structure.

These rhythms might include:

  • Regular moments of checking in with your body throughout the day

  • Meal times that encourage slowness and sensory awareness

  • Transition rituals between activities that help you remain present during shifts in attention

  • Sleep patterns that respect your body's need for rest and recovery

Relationships as Anchors

Perhaps nothing keeps us more firmly rooted in reality than authentic human connection. When we build relationships characterized by safety, transparency, and mutual understanding, we create external systems that can help us remain present.

Consider:

  • Educating trusted friends or family members about your dissociative experiences

  • Creating "reality check" agreements with loved ones who can gently help you reconnect

  • Participating in communities centered around embodied activities like dance, sports, or gardening

  • Prioritizing relationships that make you feel seen, accepted, and securely attached

Purpose as Presence

When we engage in activities that feel meaningful and connected to our values, we naturally become more present. The state of flow—that immersive experience of being fully engaged in a challenging but manageable task—is often the opposite of dissociation.

Explore:

  • Creative pursuits that require sensory engagement and focused attention

  • Service to others, which can help us maintain connection to our shared humanity

  • Work or volunteer activities aligned with your core values

  • Learning opportunities that challenge you while remaining within your window of tolerance

The Courage to Feel

At its core, dissociation often represents an unconscious attempt to avoid difficult feelings or sensations. Building a life of presence means gradually developing the capacity to experience a wider range of emotions with curiosity rather than fear.

This might involve:

  • Working with a trauma-informed therapist to safely process underlying experiences

  • Practicing mindfulness of emotions without immediate attempts to change them

  • Developing a vocabulary for subtle emotional states that helps you recognize early signs of disconnection

  • Celebrating the courage it takes to stay present, even when uncomfortable

The path toward consistent presence isn't about perfection or eliminating dissociation entirely. Rather, it's about creating conditions where your natural state becomes increasingly one of embodied awareness. With patience and intentionality, you can build not just coping strategies but a life where connection becomes your default setting rather than a constant struggle.

Tuesday, February 25, 2025

I Am A Kind Man Program

 


Help with Decluttering Workshop

 


Community Free Dinners and more-Glad Tidings Church in Burlington

 



1401 Guelph Line, Burlington, ON L7P 4P5





COMMUNITY RESOURCES

There are numerous organizations that offer food resources and hot meals. You can find more information here PDF LIST OF RESOURCES or call Halton Region by dialing 311 for more information.

AT A GLANCE:

Burlington Food Bank: 905-637-2273
Open Doors at St. Christopher's: 905-634-1809
Food for Life Programs: 905-635-1106 Ext. 225
Compass Point Food Market: 905-336-0500 Ext. 234
Compassion Society: 905-592-3722
Salvation Army Community Services: 289-230-2556


SHARE HOPE

Mental health concerns for children have been on the rise, especially throughout the COVID-19 pandemic. In response to the growing need, Glad Tidings has created a fund to assist families who are in need of professional therapy and mental health care.  We want to invest in our children and families and support them with care through this difficult time.

Criteria and guidelines:

  • This funding is offered to children and youth up to age 17.
  • One application may be submitted per family.  
  • Gross family income must be less than $80,000 per year.
  • Families that have benefits must show that they have used their benefits first, before receiving additional funding through GT’s Share Hope fund.
  • Funding is based on a first come, first serve basis for those who meet the requirements.

Steps for applying for the Share Hope fund:

  • Email Pastor Cheryl for detail and the current application process - cneal@gtburlington.org
  • Applicants will be contacted within 21 days of application submission to be informed of your application’s standing.

Meal Ministry at Wellington Square: 905-634-1849


SHARE NOEL

Christmas help for families in our GT community. Applications open the week after Thanksgiving and close in early November. If you have missed that window, please utilize one of the many other organizations in Burlington. You can call 311 for more information.


Unsinkable-Ages 16-26 (Tuesdays)

 


Self-Care Night-Ages 16-24-ADAPT

 


Calming Your Mind-Karma Gaia

Calming Your Mind 

In our fast-paced world, finding moments of mental peace has become increasingly valuable. When stress and anxiety begin to overwhelm, these practical techniques can help restore tranquility to your mind. 



 Deep Breathing 

 The simplest way to calm your mind begins with your breath. Try the 4-7-8 technique: inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, and exhale for 8 seconds. This pattern activates your parasympathetic nervous system, naturally reducing stress hormones. 



 Mindful Meditation 

Even five minutes of meditation can significantly reduce mental turbulence. Find a quiet space, sit comfortably, and focus on your breathing. When thoughts arise, acknowledge them without judgment and gently return your focus to your breath. 



 Nature Connection 

Studies show that spending time in natural environments reduces cortisol levels and mental fatigue. A walk in the park, tending to houseplants, or simply gazing at natural scenery can all provide mental relief. 



 Digital Detox 

Constant connectivity contributes significantly to mental overload. Designate technology-free periods throughout your day to give your mind space to process and reset.



Physical Movement 

Exercise releases endorphins that naturally elevate mood. Even gentle movement like stretching or a short walk can help clear mental fog and reduce rumination. 



 Sensory Grounding 

When anxious thoughts spiral, engage your senses with the 5-4-3-2-1 technique: acknowledge 5 things you see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell, and 1 thing you taste. Remember that calming your mind is a practice, not a perfect science. Be patient with yourself as you explore which techniques work best for your unique mind and circumstances.



Wednesday, February 19, 2025

Upcoming Events for Burlington Brewery-Tickets sell fast FYI

Sun, Feb 23

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Burlington Brewery

FEB 23ND ACCESS 

- THE TRAGICALLY HIPS


Prepare to relive the raw energy, poetic lyrics, and iconic sound that made THE TRAGICALLY HIP a cornerstone of Canadian rock. THE SURGICALLY HIP delivers an authentic and electrifying performance, honoring hits like "Bobcaygeon," "Ahead by a Century," "New Orleans Is Sinking," and many more.

  Buy tickets here; approx. $12   

https://www.burlingtoncraft.com/event-details/feb-23nd-access-the-tragically-hips

Fri, Feb 28

OR Sat Mar 1 |

Burlington 

Brewery

FEB 28TH ACCESS 

- JANIS JOPLIN & JIMI HENDRIX TRIBUTE


Get your crew ready, grab your tickets, and prepare to be blown away by iconic hits that defined an era! Don’t miss Burlington’s loudest, wildest, and most unforgettable night!


Buy tickets here; approx $14



Fri March 21st OR Sat, Mar 22 |

Burlington Brewer

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LEGENDARY ROCK TRIBUTE 

- PINK LEATHER JACKET 

- MARCH 22ND ACCESS


Step into a time machine of sound as Pink Leather Jacket takes the stage with their electrifying tribute to rock’s most iconic hits! This band knows how to work the crowd, delivering an unforgettable mix of legendary tracks and modern classics that will have you singing and dancing all night.


  Buy tickets here; approx. $12 


https://www.burlingtoncraft.com/event-details/legendary-rock-tribute-pink-leather-jacket-march-22nd-access



Fri, Mar 28

OR Sat Mar 29 |

Burlington Brewery

RED HOT CHILLI PEPPERS TRIBUTE 

- THE RIGHTEOUS AND THE WICKED 

- MARCH 28TH ACCESS


Burlington Brewery Presents an explosive tribute to the legendary RED HOT CHILI PEPPERS with the incredible THE RIGHTEOUS AND THE WICKED !

  Get ready for a high-energy night filled with the funk, rock, and soul that made the RED HOT CHILI PEPPERS global icons.

  Buy tickets here; approx. $12 

https://www.burlingtoncraft.com/event-details/red-hot-chilli-peppers-tribute-the-righteous-and-the-wicked-march-28th-access


Fri, Apr 04

OR Sat Apr 5 |

Burlington Brewery

QUEEN TRIBUTE 

- SHEER HEART ATTACK 

- APRIL 4TH ACCESS


Prepare to experience the magic of Queen like never before with Sheer Heart Attack, a tribute band that celebrates the music of Britain's royal rock royalty! Named after Queen’s iconic third studio album, this band brings you the energy, stage presence, and technical musicianship.

Buy tickets here; approx. $17



Fri, Apr 11 Or Sat Apr 12

|

Burlington Brewery

PEARL JAM TRIBUTE 

- PEARL JAMMING 

- APRIL 11TH ACCESS


Get ready to relive the raw power and iconic sound of Pearl Jam with Pearl Jamming, a tribute band that brings the energy, grit, and unforgettable anthems of one of the most legendary rock bands to the stage!

Buy tickets here; approx. $23

https://www.burlingtoncraft.com/event-details/pearl-jam-tribute-pearl-jamming-april-11th-access




Fri, Apr 25

OR Sat Apr 26|

Burlington Brewery

ROCK AND ROLL JUKEBOX 

- THE LONELY HEARTS 

- APRIL 25TH ACCESS


Get ready for a night packed with the timeless sounds of rock and roll as The Lonely Hearts bring their electrifying show to Burlington Brewery Presents! This talented band takes you on an unforgettable journey through the golden age of music, channeling the energy and spirit of rock legends.

  Buy EARLY BIRD tickets here; approx. $12